Does your congregation have some preventive policies in place to support parents & RE leaders? Here's what they have done at West Shore Unitarian Universalist Church, Rocky River, Ohio

POLICY REGARDING DISRUPTIVE BEHAVIOR
While openness to a wide variety of individuals is one of the prime values held by our congregation and expressed in our denomination's purposes and principles, we affirm the belief that our congregation must maintain a secure atmosphere where such openness can exist. When any person's physical and/or emotional well-being or freedom to safely express his or her beliefs is threatened, the source of this threat must be addressed firmly and promptly, even if this ultimately requires the expulsion of the offending person or persons.

There have been times when the disruptive behavior of an individual within the church building has led members to voice their concerns about one or more of the following:

• Perceived threats to the safety of any adult or child;
• The disruption of church activities;
• Diminishment of the appeal of the church to its potential and existing membership.

1. If an immediate response is required, this will be undertaken by the Minister(s), if available, and/or the leader of the group involved. This may include asking the offending person or persons to leave, or suspending the meeting or activity until such a time as it can safely be resumed. If further assistance is required the Police Department may be called. Anytime any of these actions are undertaken without the Minister(s) being present, the Minister(s) must be notified. A follow-up letter detailing what steps must be taken before returning to the activities involved will be sent by the Minister(s) to the offending party or parties.
2. Situations not requiring immediate response will be referred to an ad hoc committee appointed by the Board of Trustees. The committee will respond in terms of their own judgment observing the following:
   Persons identified as disruptive will be dealt with as individuals; stereotypes will be avoided.
   • The committee will collect all necessary information.
   • To aid in evaluating the problem, the following points will be considered: DANGEROUSNESS- Is the individual the source of a threat or perceived threat to persons or property? DISRUPTIVENESS- How much interference with church functions is going on? OFFENSIVENESS- How likely is it that prospective or existing members will be driven away?
   • To determine the necessary response, the following points will be considered: CAUSES- Why is the disruption occurring? Is it a conflict between the individual and others in the church? Is it due to a professionally diagnosed condition of mental illness? HISTORY- What was the frequency and degree of disruption caused in the past? PROBABILITY OF CHANGE- How likely is it that the problem behavior will diminish in the future?
   • The committee will decide upon the necessary response on a case by case basis. However, the following three levels of response are recommended: LEVEL ONE- The committee shall inform the Minister(s) of the problem and either the Minister(s) or a member shall meet with the offending individual to communicate the concern. LEVEL TWO- The offending individual is excluded from the church and/or specific church activities for a limited period of time, with reasons and the conditions of return made clear. LEVEL THREE- The offending individual is permanently excluded from the church premises and all church activities. Before this is carried out, the committee will consult with the Board of Trustees and the Minister(s). If it is decided that the expulsion will take place, a letter will be sent by the Minister(s) explaining the expulsion and the individual's rights and possible recourse.
   • Any action taken under the above item may be appealed to the Executive Committee of the Board of Trustees and/or Minister(s).