Adult/Teen Evening for Processing 9/11 events (held
11/11/01)
The Rev. Christine Robinson
Unitarian Church of Albuquerque, NM
Sept, 2001
(People were instructed to bring journals. After they arrived, they
were divided into groups of 5, with pre-arranged leaders. The leaders
had the following instructions)
Leader Instructions
Thank you for agreeing to lead one of the discussion groups. You may
want to ask for a helper to be a time-keeper for you.
- Announce the question
- Let the group be silent with the question for about 3 minutes. People
can write or just think about the subject.
- Go around your group, giving everyone time to speak for no more
than 2 minutes. No cross-talk yet!
- With any remaining time, you can have a discussion, but no one may
speak more than twice before everyone who wants a turn has it.
What is your greatest sense of grief and loss in all this? If you could
wave a magic wand and restore one thing for yourself, what would it
be? If you could restore one thing for others, what would it be?
What is your greatest sense of anger in all this? We usually become
angry because we have been or fear being violated in some way. What
is the violation? The fear?
From whom do you feel most alienated? What words and deeds have shocked
or disappointed you the most? What of your own thoughts and feelings
have not pleased you?
What do you think is or could be the good in all this? How do you imagine
that God or Goddess or the Divine works in a terrible situation like
this one? Did September 11 change your theology or sense of how the
world works?
What are your greatest worries for the world? For yourself? What concerns
do you carry into the future?
I liked and used this reading
September 26, 2001
A Time of Gifts
By STEPHEN JAY GOULD
The patterns of human history mix decency and depravity in equal measure.
We often assume, therefore, that such a fine balance of results must
emerge from societies made of decent and depraved people in equal numbers.
But we need to expose and celebrate the fallacy of this conclusion so
that, in this moment of crisis, we may reaffirm an essential truth too
easily forgotten, and regain some crucial comfort too readily forgone.
Good and kind people outnumber all others by thousands to one. The tragedy
of human history lies in the enormous potential for destruction in rare
acts of evil, not in the high frequency of evil people. Complex systems
can only be built step by step, whereas destruction requires but an
instant. Thus, in what I like to call the Great Asymmetry, every spectacular
incident of evil will be balanced by 10,000 acts of kindness, too often
unnoted and invisible as the "ordinary" efforts of a vast
majority.
We have a duty, almost a holy responsibility, to record and honor the
victorious weight of these innumerable little kindnesses, when an unprecedented
act of evil so threatens to distort our perception of ordinary human
behavior.
I will cite but one tiny story, among so many, to add to the count
that will overwhelm the power of any terrorist's act. And by such tales,
multiplied many million fold, let those few depraved people finally
understand why their vision of inspired fear cannot prevail over ordinary
decency. As we left a local restaurant to make a delivery to (the World
Trade Center site) late one evening, the cook gave us a shopping bag
and said: "Here's a dozen apple brown bettys, our best dessert,
still warm. Please give them to the rescue workers." How lovely,
I thought, but how meaningless, except as an act of solidarity, connecting
the cook to the cleanup. Still, we promised that we would make the distribution,
and we put the bag of 12 apple brown bettys atop several thousand face
masks and shoe pads.
Twelve apple brown bettys into the breach. Twelve apple brown bettys
for thousands of workers. And then I learned something important that
I should never have forgotten - and the joke turned on me. Those 12
apple brown bettys went like literal hot cakes. These trivial symbols
in my initial judgment turned into little drops of gold within a rainstorm
of similar offerings for the stomach and soul, from children's postcards
to cheers by the roadside. We gave the last one to a firefighter, an
older man in a young crowd, sitting alone in utter exhaustion as he
inserted one of our shoe pads. And he said, with a twinkle and a smile
restored to his face: "Thank you. This is the most lovely thing
I've seen in four days - and still warm!"